The most difficult and discouraging part of having liberal minded friends who dont engage with critical theory is when they approach me for my political analysis of their personal situations. While i am more than happy to help support them, i find myself disappointed when they, after identifying that someone or something that happened is wrong and requires a non-hegemonic treatment, later decide to accept that problematic dynamic without challenging it.
In those instances, they usually ask me to help them problematize what should be done and why things happened a certain way. Yet, their words in those spaces usually become forgotten or discarded in favor of “reasonable” social expectations, which really boils down to trading humanzing critical consciousness for social privilege/capital.
Its disheartening for these friends to reproach me, later echoing either their own excuses for not confronting the situation or worse, parroting the excuses of the person who hurt them by evoking oppressive narratives or behavior.